It would be nice to devote my life to gaining a bathtub-sized silver casket with clawed feet lined with velvet and fill it to the brim with gemstones and just sit in it, purring and drinking kava. I think this or a version of this will indeed happen in my life at some point because I’ve wanted a…
In the German North Sea, 10 small islands are sparsely filled with only 100 inhabitants. Photographer Antony Sojka traveled to this peculiar place to capture the the way of life that revolves around the changing tides. (See where the project was funded.)
an extensive list of queer lady movies, for my dear followers as a new year present.
WATCH SAVING FACE IT’S LITERALLY THE BEST MOVIE EVER IN YA FUNNY BONE AND CUTIE-PATOOTIENESS
art foundation almost guarantees finding something funny on a memory stick every time you look
(we were doing action in slow motion)
(i’m not even short, tom’s just 6ft++)
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Lovely ladies in Maurice Rocco’s soundie, Rocco Blues (circa 1940s)
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i received an email from aila, a 19-year-old student and womanhouse zine supporter from ireland a few days ago talking about her new interest in feminist studies and she asked what i would consider to be essential feminist reading. i figured more than one person could potentially benefit from seeing this so i’m just going to post it here for everyone to see.
i don’t pretend i have read everything about feminism, but i am a nerd and went to an all women’s college and studied women’s studies, so if i leave something out that you think is really essential you should message me and i’ll post it. i also definitely think that “essential” feminist reading is different for everybody because the movement and its history is so interdisciplinary and far-reaching. i come from a feminist arts background, for example. i think it’s very important, regardless of your niche, to know the history and to know the great theorists before you get more specific. so this list is going to be more of a “classics of feminist readings” if that makes sense.
i’ll suggest 5 and i’m going to start with my favorite of all time:
1. feminist theory: from margin to center by bell hooks, 1984
i bought this book new and it’s basically annihilated right now because i underlined and highlighted and wrote in the margins and drew a lot of exclamation points and that’s all completely reflective of how i felt the entire time i was reading it. bell hooks’ writing style is very easy to follow and her theories are written with the goal of teaching her readers more than using elitist language to comply with feminist academia. feminist theory is a really good introduction to intersectionality and describes hooks’ own struggles as a woman of color in the women’s movement of the 1970s. i think the best part of this book is the fact that hooks is ruthless in addressing problems and discrimination within the movement, but ends each section with a suggestion of political action and hope for change.
(let’s be real. any book by bell hooks is essential feminist reading but you should start with this one)
2. the feminine mystique by betty friedan, 1963
this was the first book related to feminism and the women’s movement that i ever read. it’s also easy to read and gives a good historical perspective of women’s struggles at the time. however, it’s important to keep in mind while reading the book that while it is a “feminist classic” and is assigned in all women’s studies classes and is probably the #1 book people associate with feminism, there are also a lot of huge problems with it such as the fact that it’s written by (and largely for) a white audience. it suggests that all women at the time were living the same life and facing the same oppression without any consideration for other races or classes. this will make more sense after you learn about intersectionality.
3. women, race and class by angela davis, 1981
angela davis rules. after you are done freaking out over her intelligence and how good her orange turtleneck looks with that blue background you should read this book because it’s essential reading that indirectly addresses the racism in the women’s movement from the white “feminist mystique” perspectives. it gives a black women’s perspective which is completely essential to understanding feminism and contributing to an inclusive movement.
4. undoing gender by judith butler, 2004
judith butler’s work focuses on gender, sex, sexuality and psychoanalysis. i think the most powerful parts ofundoing genderare about performativity; how gender is socialized and how we “perform” our identity for other people. it’s important to say that while judith butler is one of the best things that’s happened to feminism and gender/sexuality academia her writing is difficult to absorb sometimes. the good thing is that once you have read the same passage over 5 or 6 times and finally understand it, it ends up being the best thing your mind has ever processed. here’s an example: “let’s face it. we’re undone by each other. and if we’re not, we’re missing something. if this seems so clearly the case with grief, it is only because it was already the case with desire. one does not always stay intact. it may be that one wants to, or does, but it may also be that despite one’s best efforts, one is undone, in the face of the other, by the touch, by the scent, be the feel, by the prospect of the touch, by the memory of the feel.”
5. manifesta: young women, feminism and the future by jennifer baumgardner and amy richards, 2000
this is the bible of the third wave! i just finished this last week and it’s really good and inspiring and well written and insightful. i think the coolest part is that the writers just sat down one day and decided that a book needed to be written and they made it happen.manifestatalks about how the direction of the movement has changed since the 1990s and gives suggestions for feminist activism. i particularly liked the section “feminists want to know: is the media dead?” because it talks about the importance of diy/punk/riot grrrl movements (and zines!) in feminist activism and politics.
A guest post by Henri Junttila from WakeUpCloud.com.
Imagine being able to produce the same amount of writing you do now in half the time.
Or even producing double the amount of work you do now in the same amount of time. It’s not only possible to do, but very simple.
Sorry to put this on you but I have an honest question about depression an suicide. Isn't it completely possible for it to be a alternative for someone. Can't there be someone out there who genuinely is tired and doesn't want to continue. I know there is beauty and wonderful things in this world. There are things to look forward to. There will be more pain but also more laughter. But what if I'm not interested?
well… well first off, i’d say, seek professional help immediately. because i am wildly unqualified to answer your question with anything but experience. and first off, my experience says, if you are in such a deep and dark place where you say things like this to total strangers on the internet, you need to be in contact with someone that can help you start to heal.
second, i’d say… you’re wrong. i’d say the things any of us don’t know, especially about tomorrow, could blanket every grain of sand on every beach of the world with bullshit. And to simply assume you are done tomorrow because you are done today is a mistake. a factual mistake, an error, a critical miscalculation.
i’d say, read Tad Friend’s piece JUMPERS in which he seeks and finds and talks to people that jumped off the Golden Gate Bridge — and lived. And they all say the same variations this: “I instantly realized that everything in my life that I’d thought was unfixable was totally fixable—except for having just jumped.”
And know that this piece has kept me in my seat on more than a couple dark nights.
And i’d say — i’d say i felt that way before too, and i was wrong.
And then i’d tell you something i don’t even think my wife knows. this happend years before we met — shit, more than a decade — and it’s not the first time i came close to suicide was on a thanksgiving night. i’d eaten well and then as the house shut down i went into the bathroom, drew a bath as hot as i could manage to stand, and climbed into the tub with a razor blade.
As i started to cut, as the corner touched my skin and that jolt of pain fired into my head, i stopped and thought — y’know, last chance. Are you SURE?
And i was tired. I sounded like you, that i knew there’d be ups again and downs but i was just so fucking TIRED i couldn’t stand the thought of having to get there. I felt this… this never-ending crush of days that were grey and tepid but for some reason i was supposed to greet each one with a smile. the constant pressure of having to keep my shit in all the time was just exhausting.
I wondered, then — well, is there anything you’re curious about. Anything you want to see play out. And i thought of a comic i was reading and i’d not figured out the end of the current storyline. And i realized I had curiosity. And that was the hook i’d hang my hat on. that by wanting to see how something played out I wasn’t really ready. That little sprout of a thing poking up through all that black earth kept me around a little longer.
I realized then that it had been so long since i’d laughed. I was numbed out and shut down and just… i missed laughing. maybe if i laughed a little i could get moving again. so i’d wait for my comic to conclude, try to find a few laughs, and then reevaluate.
So I’m in the bathtub and i got this real sharp-ass razor, right? And i look down and there’s all my bits floating in the water like they do and i thought okay, let’s get funny and i got to work.
I shaved off exactly half my pubic hair vertically. The end result was a ‘fro of pubes that looked like a Chia Pet that only half-worked. I started to laugh as I did it. And every time i’d piss, looking down made me laugh.
Because JESUS what a nightmare.
Shortly thereafter I got very heavily into Chuck Jones and Tex Avery. Way less chafing and way more funny.
jesus. i was still in high school at the time. dig if you will a picture of the chubby weirdo that was always giggling at his dick in the bathroom. that was me.
And then I guess I’d tell you about Dave, who did the same thing as me a few years later, only DIDN’T have my hilarious Chia Dick strategy in mind and got the razor in and up. And as he started to bleed out “Brown Eyed Girl” came on the radio and he realized he’d never get to hear that again so, in a bloody comedy of errors — I swear to god this is true — he got out of the tub, tried to get dressed the best he could, went downstairs calling for help only to find his family gone, went out to his car, and drove to doug’s house only to find doug not home and so, then, finally, he blacked out from blood loss sitting there in his car, playing a van morrison CD on repeat, until, by luck, Doug’s mom came home and found him.
Fucking Van Morrison, y’know?
A song, a comic, something dumb, something small. From that seed can come everything else, I swear to god.
I guess last I’d say… I’d say that, look — if you reached out to me for an answer, than I have to reach back out to you and insist you hear it. Because it means, what, you know me? My work? You read my stuff and thought, well, fuck, if anyone would know why I shouldn’t end my life, if anyone alive is QUALIFIED TO SAVE ME it’s the guy that had britney spears punch a bear? okay — okay, then, so as THAT GUY I’m saying: Get help. Now, today, tonight, whenever — get to a phone and find a doctor that can try to help you heal, that can try to recolorize your world again, that can help you start caring again. All you need is that one tiny thing, that speck, that little grain of sand. the World Series, AVENGERS 2, Tina Fey’s new show, the first issue of PRETTY DEADLY, some slice of the world you’ve never seen, some drink you love, who the fuck will love your dog like you do if you’re gone, what if jabrams KILLS it on the new STAR WARS, the hell are you doing for Halloween, you ever feed a dolphin with your bare hand? because i have and I am fucking telling you IT IS A THING TO EXPERIENCE and oh god WHAT FUCKING FONT WILL STARBUCKS USE ON THE CHRISTMAS DRINK SLEEVES THIS YEAR — i don’t care what or how dumb but i promise you somewhere in your life is that one fleck of dust that can help start you on the road back. That’s all it takes. One fucking mote, drifting through your head.
And because you asked me I am answering you because i know, motherfucker, i know, i know, i know the hole you are fucking in because I was there myself and if you look hard you can still see my writing on those walls and if you stare long enough i swear to god it’s pointing to up